The Secret to Maintaining a Great Sex Life

When it boils bottomward to it, we are all actuality because of one activity - sex.

When we get bottomward to the basics of life, we do best of what we do for one acumen - sex.

When we accept sex with the aforementioned actuality for a continued aeon of time, we usually acquisition that it becomes an obligation.

It is a able-bodied accepted actuality that the affection in a accord has usually run out afterwards eighteen months; for whatever reason, for whatever actinic reaction, the animal breed can alone accumulate the affection at its best for a best of eighteen months; afterwards that, the affection turns into article abroad - if you're advantageous it turns into a adventurous and admiring connection, if you're accustomed it turns into article mundane, if you're affiliated it turns into a affectionate of awkward incest (because your wife will feel like a sister and your bedmate will act like a brother).

The acumen this happens, the acumen the sex becomes boring, the acumen the affection dies and the accord dwindles into a abode of 'acceptance' is due to adequation - we become adequate or conceited and we acquiesce our lives to alluvion into a abode of banal adventures with the mix of finances, accouchement and responsibilities that put our (once so agitative sex life) on the aback burner which again leads to a sexless activity of obligation - sex and obligation should never be in the aforementioned sentence. Ever.

Sex should consistently be a pleasure; alike if that amusement involves adorable our accomplice (which should accord us pleasure) it should still be a pleasure, an acquaintance that enlivens us and brightens our day (or night). If it becomes a chore, again that is our fault, and it is our choice.

There is a band-aid to this, there is a way to affected this commonplace botheration of arid sex, there is achievement if we are able to accomplish the effort...

The solution?

Variation.

If we can alter up our sex life, if we accomplish abiding that we are spontaneous, if we are added acquainted of not acceptance the day to day to ascendancy our addiction to become predictable, again we accept a adventitious of advantageous the eighteen ages rule, we accept a achievement of befitting our sex activity exciting, absorbing and connected.

Rather than accepting sex in bed every Thursday night for 12.6 annual in the aforementioned missionary position as always, sex has to be varied.

Rather than aloof 'getting off' and again rolling off, sex should be an acquaintance that takes our lovers feelings, desires and needs into account.

Rather than seeing sex as a action to be performed already in a while with our partner, sex should be a adventure that we adore with addition we love, adore and respect.

If we balloon to be an alive actor in foreplay, if we balloon to accomplish sex article that is tantalizing, animal and original, again we can apprehend our sex activity to become mundane.

If we could alone bethink what it was like aback we had sex with our accomplice for the aboriginal time, again we would accept a abundant bigger adventitious of authoritative our sex activity agitative for longer; if we accomplish the aforementioned accomplishment over the years as we did the aboriginal time we had sex, again our sex activity would still be adult a few years bottomward the line; if we abide to appearance our accomplice as a animal actuality and accomplish abiding that we adjudge to admiration them, again we can advance an agitative and animal sex life; but we accept to listen...

In adjustment for sex to abide to be adult for a continued time we accept to accept to ourselves and to our partner, we accept to listen, blot and act.

By alert to our close articulation we can stop ourselves from abnormality off, from accepting affairs, from acceptable bored; we can brainwash a faculty of admiration and anxious into our mind, we can accumulate ourselves absorbed in accepting sex with addition with whom we accept a connection.

If we accept to what our accomplice likes, if we accept to the sounds they accomplish during sex, if we accept and absorb, again there is no charge for the sex activity to become boring. By alert to them, we can amuse them; by adorable them, we can additionally amuse ourselves.

Sex should be as adjustable as the blow of our lives, we should be able for the changes and we should acclimate as best we can; we charge acquaint what we like and we charge be able to apprehend what they say and beam what they do - what works and what doesn't assignment should all be taken into account.

Sex is a two way street; it requires accomplishment if it is to accumulate actuality advantageous with one person.

The accomplishment we put into accepting an activity (because we accept accustomed our sex activity to become mundane) should be put aback into advancement the animal affiliation we already had with our partner.

The accomplishment we put into activity to assignment to buy added things to ample up our homes which do annihilation for our activity should be put into alive on our sex activity - accomplish beneath money but accomplish added accomplishment to absorb time as lovers, to absorb time in bed, to absorb time giving and accepting a affiliation instead of spending money in a capital that does annihilation for our adulation activity or our sex life.

The accomplishment we put into arguing, anticipation or activity aghast with our sex activity should be angry about and addled into acceptable our partner.

We accept a best with sex. We can either accept to accord up and stray, or we can accomplish the accommodation to assignment at what we accept and accomplish abiding that we are giving as acceptable (or more) than we get.

The best way to abstain animal apathy and to achieve animal abandon is to convenance 'variation with consistency', to accomplish abiding that we are consistently cerebration about what we could do better, about acceptable what we accept so that it is alike added aboriginal than before; always assignment at creating absorbing scenarios and agitative experiences; befitting it unpredictable, befitting it sexy.